My dislike of Valentine's day started in first grade. Back in those days, schools didn't try to make things fair and guarantee goodies for everyone. So when I didn't get the Valentine's card I wanted, or I got a mean one, it hurt.
I decided Valentine's day is a silly made up holiday designed to sell flowers and torture grade school children. Why should I participate in a scam? So, for a long time, I didn't. I was a love grinch. But that has changed.
I participate in Valentine's day to celebrate Love. Love is great because the more you give it, the more you have. God tells us to love Him and each other, in fact He commands it. Don't let commercialism turn you into a love grinch. Valentine's day gives husband's free reign to display their love in any way they want, without seeming goofy. So write a corny poem, sing a love song, dress up in heart pajamas and kiss your wife. Let her know you love her.
Monday, February 14, 2011
Friday, January 28, 2011
Serendipity
Serendipity is a propensity for making fortunate discoveries while looking for something unrelated.
Serendipity was first used on this day in 1754. To me it is another way of saying God puts you where He wants you. Wherever, whatever, and whenever you are, God has a plan. Trust Him. Have Faith. Pray and listen.
Serendipity was first used on this day in 1754. To me it is another way of saying God puts you where He wants you. Wherever, whatever, and whenever you are, God has a plan. Trust Him. Have Faith. Pray and listen.
Tuesday, December 21, 2010
Do Something!
Sometimes it is easy to be a clever husband. Just do something for your wife. Even if you have to mark it in your phone or to-do list, remember to do something. E-mail her a poem, do a load of laundry, bring her a single rose. Let her know you still love her. Its clever.
Tuesday, November 2, 2010
Saturday, October 23, 2010
Monday, October 4, 2010
Selfish does not equal clever
Teacher,which commandment in the law is the greatest?"- Matthew 22:36-40
He said to him, "You shall love the Lord, your God, with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.
This is the greatest and the first commandment.
The second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.
The whole law and the prophets depend on these two commandments.
For me, and many others, leading a selfish life is easy. Our society rewards and expects selfish behavior. Our cultural norm for gauging success is based on money, power and self-indulgent rewards.
In a marriage ,and a quest for heaven, focusing on self leads to doom. All too often I forget this and lose sight of Jesus' commandment. I expect things to go well for me and don't consider the cost that has for my wife or others around me. Even mundane daily choices can move us closer or further from God.
~Getting Gas for your wife instead of sleeping in.
~Playing catch with your son instead of updating Facebook.
~Smiling at others and saying hello instead of hurrying past.
~Talking about plans when you feel like sleeping.
So, I prayed this morning:
Lord, you have made your desires for us so clear. You want us to be with you. To love you completely. And you want us to love others. Help me when I'm weak. I need your Grace to overcome my selfishness. Help me show and share your love with everyone I meet. Let everything I do be for you. Guide me Lord. I ask through your Son Jesus, Amen.
Tuesday, September 28, 2010
Remember your wife...you promised
Do you forget where you left your keys? How about birthdays or anniversaries? How about Mother's day?
Maybe you are totally awesome and don't forget anything. I applaud you and truly admire that ability.
I've forgotten keys, walets, paperwork and dozens of other little things. I've forgotten my wife's birthday, our anniversary, and had her cook a big dinner on Mother's day. Not very clever at all.
The message my wife got from those actions is not the message I wanted to send. It was hurtful to be forgotten. My actions were saying "You aren't important enough for me to remember."
But my wife and our marriage is important to me. I promised her before God and more friends than I could name that I was going to be her husband. To love and honor her all the days of our lives. I meant it and still mean it today.
So being busy, stressed, or any other lame reason are just excuses. She and our marriage are a priority. So now I put down reminders in my calendar. I send myself e-mails and I make sure not to forget her. It is a choice to live up to the promise I made.
Maybe you are totally awesome and don't forget anything. I applaud you and truly admire that ability.
I've forgotten keys, walets, paperwork and dozens of other little things. I've forgotten my wife's birthday, our anniversary, and had her cook a big dinner on Mother's day. Not very clever at all.
The message my wife got from those actions is not the message I wanted to send. It was hurtful to be forgotten. My actions were saying "You aren't important enough for me to remember."
But my wife and our marriage is important to me. I promised her before God and more friends than I could name that I was going to be her husband. To love and honor her all the days of our lives. I meant it and still mean it today.
So being busy, stressed, or any other lame reason are just excuses. She and our marriage are a priority. So now I put down reminders in my calendar. I send myself e-mails and I make sure not to forget her. It is a choice to live up to the promise I made.
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