Beloved- Finding happiness in marriage

Do your marriage a favor and get your hands on this great talk by Dr. Tim Gray. My wife and I really found it helpful. Very thoughtful, but approachable. Highly recommended.

No Joke

Humor is a great way to break the ice or lighten a mood. But jokes that come at someone elses expense are dangerous and possibly cruel.

I always advocate not making fun of your wife. Making the person you love feel awkward, hurt or uncomfortable isnt loving.

However, recently I did make  joke at my wife's expense. And I did it in front of a large group. It was hurtful and mean.  I was going for laughs and didn't think of the consequences.

It reminded me that not having bad intentions does not excuse anything. Throwing your best friend's feelings under the bus for a laugh is wrong. And totally contrary to being a clever husband. L

There is no secret to marriage. Just show your wife you love her every once and while.  A woman will put up with an awful lot if she knows she is loved.  Keep things fresh.  Pull things out of the hat every once and a while ----John Walton

The splinter in your eye.

  While I was driving my daughter home last night, I said some mean and sarcastic things about other drivers. I was also sarcastic and mean about the behavior of some of the kids at the library event.  I said Things I wouldn't accept from my daughter or anyone else. Then I got home and continued to be a jerk.

I easily criticized other drivers and behavior, but I didn't see my own issue. My wife tried to point it out to me, but I had none of it, I was fine.  Matthew 7:4 popped into my head this morning.  So I prayed and asked the Lord to help me take the beam from my own eye and not worry about all the splinters I perceive.

Is Valentine's day stupid?

My dislike of Valentine's day started in first grade.  Back in those days, schools didn't try to make things fair and guarantee goodies for everyone.  So when I didn't get the Valentine's card I wanted, or I got a mean one, it hurt.

I decided  Valentine's day is a silly made up holiday designed to sell flowers and torture grade school children. Why should I participate in a scam? So, for a long time, I didn't.  I was a love grinch. But that has changed.

I participate in Valentine's day to celebrate Love. Love is great because the more you give it, the more you have. God tells us to love Him and each other, in fact He commands it. Don't let commercialism turn you into a love grinch. Valentine's day gives husband's free reign to display their love in any way they want, without seeming goofy. So write a corny poem, sing a love song, dress up in heart pajamas and kiss your wife. Let her know you love her.

Serendipity

Serendipity is a propensity for making fortunate discoveries while looking for something unrelated.

Serendipity was first used on this day in 1754. To me it is another way of saying God puts you where He wants you. Wherever, whatever, and whenever you are, God has a plan. Trust Him. Have Faith.  Pray and listen. 

Do Something!

Sometimes it is easy to be a clever husband. Just do something for your wife. Even if you have to mark it in your phone or to-do list, remember to do something. E-mail her a poem, do a load of laundry, bring her a single rose. Let her know you still love her.  Its clever.